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I don’t think she is a lost cause, not at all. Alcholics give up drinking, drug addicts go straight, there is no reason why she can’t change.

None of us is perfect. I believe in redemption and I’ve seen a lot of it. She’s not even through 1/4 of her life, it’s ridiculous to write her off.

I agree! I wouldn’t presume to tell any guy to wife her up, that’s not my call. But I applaud her efforts to change her behavior. Many women have bounced back from far worse. Heck, my husband’s grandmother got knocked up on a haystack by the boy from the farm next door and got married fast. She became a pillar of the Congregational Church and beyond reproach – and that was in the 40s!

73Jesus Mahoney March 20, 2012 at 10:54 pm
lalady,

Thing is, this has little to do with “blame.” She’s done what she’s done (and if Sue’s breaking things down into individual w/e’s, then she’s probably done a lot) and while she maybe a product of the culture, she’s also a product of all those hook up experiences. And, as Sue says, she did get that pay off, that high at the moments the hook ups were taking place. So you have to look at all that when considering whether or not this girl can be fit for a LTR in the future.

I hope she works her issues out, but I don’t blame guys who are wary of women like that.

74Susan Walsh March 20, 2012 at 10:55 pm
@WW

. I don’t know this girl’s background, but child sexual abuse and rape victims often are programmed to not know how to assert themselves during unwanted sex.

No, nothing like that. She’s simply a college girl who got caught up in the hookup scene. She’s hardly a rarity.

75Lokland March 20, 2012 at 10:57 pm
@ Susan