https://bit.ly/3DxieU5 https://bit.ly/3xvJQVG https://bit.ly/3LnT7F9 https://bit.ly/3R2Ybkz https://bit.ly/3yxf3bU https://bit.ly/3RfuRYr https://bit.ly/3R4GwsC https://bit.ly/3R4UqLF https://bit.ly/3OWp1ZP The problem with this is that instead of dispassionately thinking, "This guy has some good ideas. I'll use them. But otherwise he's not someone I want to be like. So I'll take the useful stuff and ignore the rest", they go, "Oh man. He's so cool. He gets laid a lot! I want to be exactly like him!!!" Then they proceed to try and be just like their chosen guru, harmful traits that have nothing to do with meeting girls and all. "take the useful stuff and ignore the rest". Wow. Kinda sounds like what I say all the time. And like I said, don't go around trying to be an asshole. An example would be a guru who, when he's out, tends to drink a lot, say obnoxious things to people, and sometimes get into fights. Obviously acting like this isn't an integral part of having success with his advice. But you'll see forum posts from guys boasting about how they talked shit to people then got thrown out of a bar. Was I that guru? Be aware that I am socially competent and I know when to back off. I do not recommend being an ass if you don't know how to gauge the circumstances and people you're dealing with. Do so, and it's only a matter of time until you get your ass kicked and no one likes you. It's largely on the internet Everyone who's spent time on a message board, chat room, or comment thread knows everything is more messed up and annoying online. Of course there's the well-known factor of everyone being less inhibited, filtered, and polite. Some people are annoying across the board, but even guys who are cool in real life can come off as abrasive jerks on the internet. You've got to wonder how much less drama and conflict there'd be in the scene if it wasn't for "internet courage." I assure all of you that I am also a jerk in real life when I want to be, but for the most part, I am cool. There's a reason why people in general like being around me, and it's not because I'm an asshole. In real life if you put a bunch of people in a room together everyone would pretty quickly spot who was eccentric or full of it and promptly disregard them. The anonymity and lack of distance online largely prevents this dynamic. And everyone can make their opinion known, no matter how useless or unhealthy it is. Every hack, weirdo, clueless beginner, or borderline scam artist can get their voice out there. And it's sometimes hard to distinguish them from more together individuals. They can portray themselves in any way they like and the onus is on the reader to figure out if they're the real deal or not. If they can talk a good game they will often be seen as legitimate.