https://binged.it/3oahLhI https://bit.ly/3cjnvmt https://bit.ly/3ofvvYA https://bit.ly/3PGoCLB https://bit.ly/3RHLLip https://bit.ly/3ROxeBM We said that when a man takes us, we love it. But you do not think that's great, you think it is “sad”, and that we are “repressed”. It's okay for a man but not for women? That looks to me like a very sexist double standard. Tell me it ain't so! :-) by Sarah Cavendish on 2004 Apr 17 - 20:04 | reply to this comment On Sexual Repression Funny that expressing sexual desire is found to be 'not normal' by others who will draw accusations of sexual repression. I guess that in order to be sexually liberated, we're to be totally open and ok with whatever it is that others think is acceptable, and repress whatever isn't... *rolls eyes*.... And please, no smoking here, I'm allergic. by Anna Grace on 2004 Apr 18 - 01:35 | reply to this comment Re Double Standards Sarah said: It's okay for a man but not for women? That looks to me like a very sexist double standard. Tell me it ain't so! :-) When you look at the traditional roles, for a man to want to be taken by storm is a rest and a respite from a life where he's always expected to be in charge. On the other hand, traditionally women weren't expected to be in charge of anything but cooking and raising babies. And, they were not expected to have sexual desires, but to accept and accommodate their husband's desires. So for a woman to want to be taken sexually by "force" was a great way around society's dictate that she not be the active party in sex. It relieved her of guilt because "he made her do it." She was free to enjoy it because she bore no responsibility for what happened. In both cases there's a pleasure in giving up the responsibility but it happens for very different reasons. Yes, when it's happening to take away the guilt of being a "bad girl," I think it's a sad state of affairs. If, on the other hand, she's also taking her man sometimes and it's a mutual respite from too much real life stress, that's a whole different thing. It's kind of surprising to hear complaints about sexism from people who believe the man should be the boss, and where I read articles about how equality isn't what it's cracked up to be.